Renungan

These days I feel like I am at the worst days of my life.
I cry a lot, feel alone most of the time..
I don't know who I can talk to because this is too personal.

Now I know how it feels to be addicted.. using a temporary fix to fix your problem..
When it's gone you feel even worse than before you have it.

This is what I read just now on my phone... hopefully I can get over this soon.

We can rejoice too when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation (Romans 5:3)

We tend to become sad or frustrated when we receive bad news.
Always remember that God wants us to appreciate life even when we're going through tough situations. Next time you're in one of those situation, whether a family member is sick, you're out of work, or things just aren't falling into place, remember that God has a bigger plan for you.

Bogor July 16

Awal July, menjelang lebaran kemarin kita ke Bogor, nginep semalam aja.. gak kemana2 juga sepertinya deh.. tapi anak2 udah senang...

Biar ada kenang2an diupload di blog ah., foto2 seadanya dari hp kadang buram pula hahaha...

Datang dari Jakarta langsung lunch di Two Stories.. katanya lantai atasnya bagus, tapi kemarin kita gak kesana...
Kemarin makanannya lumayan enak, anak2 suka udonnya... boleh lah cobain makan sini..

foto didepan tulisan two stories, biar sah hehe

two stories tampak dalam dari meja kita

vespa

pada ga mau difoto

Setelah kenyang, kita lanjut ke SKI Tajur, Toma mau beli tas laptop.. terakhir beli disini lumayan awet sekitar 4 tahun kali ya.. karena dulu kesini belum hamil Daniel deh.. Tulisannya ada di blog tapi kok males nyarinya

perhatiin deh nanti bakal banyak foto faith disini dengan bibir monyong hehehe

Di SKI Tajur kita beli tas laptop buat Toma sama 2 tas buat para suster...
Terakhir kesini beli buat nyokap juga dia seneng karena kulit asli... cuman kemarin cari2 kok gak ada yang bagus ya, rata2 tembakan dari merek2 gitu.
Disana anak2 juga sempet main playgroundnya, terus pada pup disitu...halah kenapa ga nunggu di hotel yahh :) oh ya sama sempet beliin sepatu buat temen kantor.

Dari sana kita langsung ke hotel, nama hotelnya lupaa... (halah bloggger macam apa)..
Update: Setelah cari di email, nama hotelnya Royal Padjajaran..
lumayan juga kamarnya... cuma kolam renangnya kecil, breakfast juga standard aja..

kamar hotel.. lumayan gede ranjangnya tetapi 2 ranjang dijadiin satu rupanya

anak2ku yang gampang disenangkan :)

tuh kan faith monyong lagi hehe

Habis settling down di kamar, anak2 langsung nagih berenang...
Kolamnya kecill.. dan ada playground kecil (ga ada fotonya)... tapi anak2 udah seneng..
Terus aku bangga loh si Faith udah berani berenang sendiri ke tempat dalam... soalnya terakhir berenang sama aku dia maunya main2 aja...
Emak2 banget ya, dikit2 bangga hehehe...

Setelah selesai berenang kita cari makan.
Tadinya mau makan di Lemongrass, tapi ya ampun rame banget itu tempat..
Jadi akhirnya muter2 mau cari tempat lain, eh nyasar di suatu resto (sekarang udah lupa loh namanya)
Fish and Chip diplesetin kalo ga salah deh nama tempatnya..
Anak2 gak doyan makanan yang kita pesen, padahal lumayan juga fish and chipsnya ada kejunya gitu jadi enak..

si faith monyong lagi hehe

si faith monyong lagi 

Besok paginya habis sarapan kita berenang lagi... terus udah gitu jalan kaki nyebrang ke FO.. beli baju renang buat Faith sama celana buat dede.. ohya sama kaos buat aku, kaosnya size anak2 hahaha..

Abis gitu kita pulang deh..
Lupa sih apa stop by buat makan ya? Ya ampun pikun banget ya padahal baru 1.5 bulan.
Yang jelas udah ga ada foto2 lagi... 

Are you with the right partner?

Beberapa hari yang lalu teman share ini di FB..
Postingan dari Jepoy Pakundo (entah siapa dia)... hehehe...
Menurutku bagus untuk direnungkan..

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it!

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

Faith dan teman2

Akhir2 ini Faith mulai suka playdate dirumah temannya..
Terus mama teman2 Faith semua pada bilang Faith itu manis banget, Faith is a very nice girl, etc etc..
Katanya kalau sama teman2 lain suka pada berantem, kalau sama Faith bisa akur main-nya..
Kalau temannya mulai ngambek, Faith suka ngalah..
Aku jadi keinget kata guru tka-nya, kalau Faith itu kayak big sister..

Aku bangga lho sama Faith..
Bukan karena dia pinter ini itu, tapi karena dia dipuji karena dia behave well..
Ya ampun, kaya gini ya jadi orang tua, anaknya dipuji manis aja bangganya setengah mati hahaha..

Tadinya mau post foto2 dia playdate, soalnya lucu2 banget, tapi ga enak sama mama teman2nya..

Oh ya aku bersyukur juga mama temen2 faith pada baik2.. mau antar jemput faith juga kalau aku gak bisa.. padahal aku jarang hang-out di sekolahan..

Sekian cerita senin sore..

Happy 3rd Birthday Daniel!

Daniel tanggal 12 kemarin ulang tahun..
Cepet banget, tau2 udah 3 tahun aja...
Beratnya 16 kg, tinggi sekitar 96cm... ndut hehehe..
Udah besar, udah pinter,.  sukanya cengengesann... sweet boy..
cuma ya itu, suka merengek dan nangis kalau minta sesuatu gak dikasih..
Gimana ya caranya...
Udah coba cara kasih tau, tambah kenceng,
Cara cuekin kadang2 manjur.
Tapi lama2 dia kayanya tau..jadi mesti pake cara galak.. padahal aku ga suka jadi begitu
Kadang sumbu sabar ini sangat pendek.. ditambah juga kepengen kasih tau biar dia gak begitu.
Aku jadi momster deh.. :(

Kapan gitu aku minta dia tidy up mainan.. jadi nyanyi lagu standard anak2 (everybody tidy up, tidy up, tidy up)... pake lagunya london bridge..
Terus dia bisa jawab gini dong.. "everybody play play play..." (sambil cengengesan...) -_-

Tadi aku pergi bertiga sama Daniel and Faith, aku nyetir.. terus jalanan macett banget... ga bisa berhenti, stuck deh pokoknya..
Eh dia minta pipis... huaaa, ga bisa minggir pula.. kalau suruh tunggu juga kasian..
Akhirnya aku buka pintu (pintu supir) terus suruh dia pipis di tengah jalan, untung gak banyak motor.

Di sekolah dia punya best friend cewe.. kemana2 main bareng, maunya sebelahan (kata missnya). terus kalau anaknya baru dateng anaknya senang gitu "yayyy.. (sambil sebut namanya)..."

Di hari ultahnya kita cuma ngerayain dengan makan2 bakmi gm hehehe.., pesen bawa ke rumah.
Kue juga belum dipesen.. , Oma soalnya belum pulang..Daniel juga ga mau difoto hehe

Hari Minggunya baru kuenya jadi, makan keluar sama mertua dan foto2.. abis gitu baru foto2 sama oma dirumah

bday boy cuma pake kaus kutang hehehe sibuk main

bday boy gak mau difoto

kuenya request Paw Patrol
order di tukang kue langganan, Natasha Cakes, deket rumah dan ga mahal hehe
20x20 kalo ga salah Rp 270rb

tiup lilin bersama

sibuk colekin kuenya hehe

masih sibuk colekin kue

dan masih colekin kue 

disini udah gak ya :)

senangnya foto di antara kado

Foto sama oma, disini juga masih colekin kue hehehe

Happy birthday Daniel,

Sehat dan happy selalu yah... 

I love you :)

10 years

I think I never post anything in all my soc-med about my anniversary.

But this year marks our 10th year anniversary, so I guess a blog post is not over the top. 

Usually people struggle in their first few years of their marriage, the adjustment period, etc.

But I think I struggle in the last five of the 10 years.

I guess all marriage has ups and downs.. including mine. 

Nobody's perfect.., including myself.

So I would like to focus on the positive side that he has, and list things that I'm grateful of

1. His mom is very kind and nice..  Some marriage struggles because of evil mom-in-law, mine is the nicest I think. I'm very very lucky. 
2. He doesn't mind helping to take care of the children, feeding, cleaning, playing, etc. He has no problem taking Faith and Daniel by himself without any help from me or from the babysitters. 
3. He can accompany me going shopping.. well, maybe because he likes shopping more than I do!
4. He is very independent, he likes to take care of himself (unlike some man who is very dependent on his wife). He packs his own suitcase when travelling, takes his own food, etc. 

Happy anniversary syg!

Sorry for all the wrong things that I did during this 10 years.

Thank you for all the good things that you gave us. 

16 July 2016: no special celebration, just eating out in the mall with the kids.
Faith took this picture

Video: Year End Concert May 2016

Latepost banget ya..
Cuma mau share Faith dan Daniel's year end concert.
Yang kelas TKA dan TKB buat drama musikal Richie Rich gitu, bagus deh props dll-nya..
Faith kebagian jadi anak2 pemain baseball..

Kalau untuk kelas yang bawah sih perform nari2 seperti biasa..
Daniel kebagian jadi ladybug hehehe.. tapi sayang videonya kurang deket, jadi kurang keliatan Danielnya.

Tiap kali ada performance backgroundnya bagus2 banget... bravo deh guru disana..

Mom and Dad's 41st Anniversary

Anniversarynya tanggal 15 Juni 2016, telat banget baru dipost sekarang hehe..

Kita merayakannya dengan makan2 aja..  dan foto2.. karena mama suka updet di WA grup ade2 dan kakaknya hehehe...

Foto2 kali ini courtesy kamera kakakku, Aldo, jadinya agak bagusan ya.. kalo biasanya foto2 di blog ini cuman seadanya dari kamera hp aja..

Kalau dipikir2, aku ini very lucky punya orang tua seperti mama papa.., masih sehat, masih akur dan sayang sama anak2nya.. 

Their marriage is not all lovey dovey... , gak mesra2 gimana.. berantem juga sering (lebih ke mama gak sabaran sama papa sih).. tapi they stayed together.. 

Terus kalo mama lagi pergi, papa suka gak bisa tidur, kadang2 sakit..

Kalau papa pergi, mama suka nyariin.

Kemarin aku sempat tanya sama papa, kenapa papa bisa tahan sama mama.

Don't get me wrong, i love my mom, but she can be very difficult to live with.

Mama itu koleris abis, suka ngatur dan mau punya the last word. 

She can be very sensitive sometimes, that we have to understand her and set aside our feelings.. kalau gak ya bisa berantem,

Tapi memang dia sangat perhatiin kita, well gak hanya kita sih, dia juga fair sama pegawai dan anak buah... semua di treat like she treats herself. 

Di keluarga memang selain mama kita semua jiwanya phlegmatis.. mungkin karena itu ya bisa akur?

Papa cerita dulu sama mama itu sebenernya kayak dijodohin sama bos mereka. 

Papa just got out of his relationship and met mama..

Kata papa pertamanya biasa aja tapi lama-lama jadi suka.

Terus dia bilang ya kita orang Kristen tidak ada kata bercerai... semua harus bisa diatasi..

Memang marriage itu hard work, so we have to make an effort. 

Kira2 begitu deh.

Mama dan Papa 15 Juni 1975

Ohya, di bulan Juli mama ke Eropa sama adik2nya.. jadi adiknya dapet voucher trip dari rekan bisnisnya. Karena keluarganya berhalangan (cuma anak sulungnya yang bisa ikut). Jadi dia ajak adik2 dan kakaknya.

Nah pas disana mama jatoh dan kaki serta bahunya patah..

Untung ikut asuransi dan bisa segera dioperasi disana. 

Sekarang mama sedang dalam proses pemulihan, sudah bisa bangun dari tempat tidur dan duduk makan sendiri.

Mama tetap happy, katanya malah dia merasa dekat dengan Tuhan karena kejadian ini. 

Dia berulang kali bilang papa baik banget..  yes indeed he is.

Happy anniversary mama papa..

Get well soon mama..